2 thoughts on “On Embarrassing Parents

  1. We insist on instruction, testing and licensing for nearly all of our serious endeavors, except for the most vital – raising children – any idiot is free to do it.

    On Children
    — Kahlil Gibran —

    Your children are not your children.
    They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
    They come through you but not from you,
    And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

    You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
    For they have their own thoughts.
    You may house their bodies but not their souls,
    For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
    which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
    You may strive to be like them,
    but seek not to make them like you.
    For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

    You are the bows from which your children
    as living arrows are sent forth.
    The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
    and He bends you with His might
    that His arrows may go swift and far.
    Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
    For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
    so He loves also the bow that is stable.

  2. Again, the issue of progenitor / procreation: who should, who shouldn’t? Nature is desperately attempting to show humans that they have gone off the rails with their numbers; that they need to stop and reach some sort of balance. Over 40,000 innocents of this madness are condemned to death every day now, dying of preventable causes which won’t be prevented, no matter the number of individuals willing to put in a helping hand. It won’t work that way. If – and what a big if that is – people were completely free to decide who has children, who doesn’t, I can see a gradual change in how women see themselves: are we baby-makers or providers? We have bodies that are essentially sex organs. Men are attracted to us; they need us for our bodies, our “touch” and most societies deny us the freedom to reciprocate. So we become baby makers because we find ourselves forced into unnatural sexual relationships, one woman to one man while our minds and bodies scream at us that we are not monogamous, but designed to please each other sexually as we feel like it, not as some law dictates. In complete freedom, where men and women interact sexually with each other without social constraints, a large number of women would eschew having children in favour of following their prime purpose and desires. In freedom, where a woman is considered equal to a man in any capacity, where she can be anything she wants to be in any profession or “job” or position, able to sustain herself as well as any male, keeping her personal independence, she would, more often than not, choose that over child-bearing and rearing. I see a future where about 10% of women will choose child-bearing as their chosen purpose and the rest will find their purpose in other ways. Meanwhile sexual control will all but vanish as women choose to have many sexual partners, male and female, and vice-versa, without social stigma. Again, a look into man’s still distant future, but inevitable. I see a world where children will become real gifts, where they will experience life with many “mothers” over and above their birth mother, other women in their clans, groups, neighbourhoods becoming their adoptive “aunts” or grandmothers, etc. and will always have a home, a sanctuary should they need one and no child will ever go hungry again. Except for rare perversions, I see a complete end to rape and incest since sex will be readily and all but freely available to men whose need for sex will probably remain at a high level. Free women can understand that and can reciprocate with equal pleasure. And that’s what the current state of control will never allow to happen. So that’s what needs to be broken.

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